Created to be His Help Meet: Chapter 3

Last time, I wrote about Chapter Two in the book "Created to Be His Help Meet: Discover How God Can Make Your Marriage Glorious" by Debi Pearl which was about having a merry heart. If you're just joining us, you can start at Chapter One. Many of this book's topics aren't popular today and will require us to be serious with ourselves and God. If you're ready, let's go!

Chapter Three: A Thankful Spirit
A thought from Debi Pearl:

A wise woman sets a joyful mood in her home. Through laughter, music, and happy times, she creates a positive attitude in her children. She knows that a lighthearted home relieves her husband of stress.

It can be difficult some days to have a thankful, merry heart (like we talked about last week). This chapter especially talks about discontentment-like when we don't have the money/lifestyle we think we should. "All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast" (Proverbs 15:15) Debi says that discontentment is not a product of our circumstances, but of our souls. If we choose to be content and joyful in our hearts, our lives and homes will reflect that.


"...for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content" (Phillipians 4:11) It's funny how our mindset can change the course of our day and our relationships. You know the saying "when mom is happy..." It's true. And mom should be happy all the time. Not a situational, flimsy, selfish happy, but a true joy of God (because it is a fruit of the spirit) knowing that God has richly blessed us with not only salvation, but even worldly comforts (even if they aren't up to our own standards).

Some people may say that "I'm just not a naturally happy person." I would ask them if they are a natural cook (or whatever they are) or did they have to practice to become what they are now? The point is, joy, just like anything else, needs to be practiced. And when you fail, try again! Learn to be thankful. Learn to smile each day. Learn to enjoy you life!

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful." (Colossians 3:15) Often, with joy comes peace. I wrote several of the verses Debi listed on joy and contentment on an idex card and put it on my dresser. I often read through them when I am dressing and such and Proverbs 15:15 is now becoming etched in my heart. I would encourage you to do the same!

Questions to ponder this week:

• Do you walk to joy most of the time? Some of the time? Rarely? Start where you're at and ask God to help you practice to become more joyful.
• Do your circumstances steal you joy, cause you stress or cause strife in your marriage? Would becoming content with your state give you and your family more peace and joy?
• How are your children's attitudes? Are they reflecting your attitude?

Do you have an encouraging thought to share on Wifehood? Tell us about it!